Wednesday, August 08, 2012

A Gift

I believe I've almost over-processed this reflective water lily. It was growing in a huge cast iron pot. I had trouble getting a shot of it, I wanted to be sure and get the reflection of the lily in the water. I wish I'd spent more time working on the composition of this shot.

I consider water lilies in a big iron pot an iconic image of serenity.

Serenity. I'm very grateful for the gift of serenity.

Today also marks the eight month since my son's passing. As I said on Facebook, I sometimes feel badly for bringing it up again, but one measures time differently after a loss like this, and it is another marker on my path. There is mostly peace, but it is a game-changer.

(Gift--the theme for week 16 of the 52 Photos Project)

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  1. Hugs, hugs, hugs. Love, love, love.
    (I've been thinking lately that I need a milestone event. Maybe you need one too?)

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    1. Thanks, Patti! You mean a milestone event that involves something other than cancer and death?! :)

      We are strong warrior women!

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  2. Don't ever feel badly about bringing it up. This is your story. You have the right to process and move and be still exactly as you feel you need. The game-changer is yours.

    Supporting you all the way. Beautiful. Thanks for the gift of an image of serenity today.

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  3. Your water lily is beautiful! Blessings to you—it's been more than a year since my mom lost her son (and I lost my wonderful brother), and we still find ourselves seeking serenity.

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    1. Thank you, Alexa! I'm sorry for your loss. May you have serenity and may your memories bring you comfort. They say it gets easier, I say we just learn to live with our pain...

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  4. Didn't know it was possible to grow water lilies in an iron pot. Do know that God, with water from our well, can grow serentity for the journey within us. Wish I had you talent with pictures, Annie...

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    1. Thanks, Jim! Yes, God can grow serenity, and I am so grateful!

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  5. it's so wonderful that you've received and embraced the gift of serenity. your lily is beautiful...in so many ways. hugs to you...

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  6. i love water lilies most especially... great photos!

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    1. Me too! It was one of those photos I'd hoped to get one of these days. That's partly why I wish I'd spent more time setting up my composition.

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  8. I like this shot you have- especially the second one. Hugs and best wishes

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  9. I recently lost my Mom to cancer, so there is no moving on quickly, so don't feel bad about bringing your son into your blog. Loss of someone you love is a mile marker in one's life.

    beautiful flower and serenity is a lovely gift.

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    1. Juana, I am so sorry for your loss and wish you well in your grief journey.

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  10. Hi Annie
    This is my first visit to your blog and I've been reading a bit about the challenges you've been facing. Very sorry about your son's death. Grief takes a whole lot of time, it's the healing process of getting on after the loss/transition. I suggest that you do things in your own good time and if it feels better to just let his things lay where they are, there is no rush, let them be. Savor the this time and all that it offers you. This too is a gift, though it may not seem like it at this moment. After my father died I found a tissue under his pillow and I kept that for years and years. And lots of this clothes too, wearing them in spite of the fact that they were huge on me. I didn't care.
    Your photo of the water lily in all its serenity is the gift you've given me on this day. thank you. and happy day to you.

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    1. Thank you, Ms. Becky. I'm learning things about grief, and about myself as I walk this path...

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  11. Serene, for sure. Simply beautiful.

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  12. I enjoy water lilies, too. I love the curl of the leaves and how shiny they are.

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  13. I'm so sorry about the loss of your son. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to loose one of my children. May God continue to give you the serenity to move ahead in the knowledge that you will be reunited with him someday in Heaven.

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    1. Thank you, Arnoldo. God's grace is what has carried us this far...

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  14. serenity is indeed a gift ....

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  15. beautiful post you have a way with words

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  16. I am tearing up just thinking about you right now - and I am sending you so much virtual love. Don't be sorry for bringing it up. This is your story and I am happy to be here to listen to you.
    Thank you for linking up such a beautiful photo and may the water lily continue to give you a sense of serenity. xo

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  17. Dear Annie,

    weeks ago I saw the picture of the first and the last boots of your son - and never forget then photo. How could you forget and not bring it up? All the best for you, and may life become a bit easier for you!

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  18. First, I'm amazed you could grow lilies, or anything at all, in your cast iron pot. The flower is beautiful, and I like the reflective quality of one lone blossom. Second, you mention your loss as often as you feel you want to. No one can say when we have grieved enough. There is no enough to be had. We move on, but the grief doesn't disappear. Through your photography, you are dealing with some of the grief. You are also making sure your son is not forgotten. You've introduced him to so many of us through your photos. That's a special kind of memorial, and as long as he lives in the hearts of others, he's never really gone. You do what you need to do.

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    1. Thanks! I didn't grow these lilies, they were at a place I visited to take pictures.

      Thank you for encouraging me in my grief...

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  19. Accept the mistakes, and ignore the FB comment! Some are quite "nit picky" as the southerners call it, often they are miserable because of doing things like this, and keep doing in because they don't know how to stop.

    I love the water lily, It made me catch my breath! So you see the over processing isn't a problem :)

    And NEVER be sorry for missing someone. I am not a mother (yet, maybe ever) but I know that there is a strong bond between a mother and her child. It is okay to miss him.

    Thank you for your kind words and for visiting my blog, and please remember the words as I hope they will help you.

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    1. Glad you liked the lily! Thanks!

      Your words were very helpful to me!

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  20. (((((Annie))))) I do not have the words for such sorrow. All I can think to do is to pray for you and your family.

    Miche

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    1. Miche, I appreciate your prayers. September is his birthday month, and will mark 9 months since he is gone...

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